No More

Dearest Facebook friends,

I have been a part of this community since my freshman year of college. For 13 years I used this site to connect. Connect with those near and far. I’ve loved getting the chance to see old classmates and new acquaintances grow, find love (and sometimes heartbreak along the way) and become wonderful people. I’ve drooled over pictures of exotic places many of you have traveled to and smiled ear to ear at those sweet little families many of you have begun building.  I have rejoiced over promotions or new jobs that you all worked so hard for and deserved.  It’s been wonderful to laugh when your dog, sibling or spouse did something outrageous, it’s been beautiful to cry with you when you had to bury a loved one, some loved ones gone much too soon.  It has made me happy, truly happy, to be apart of each of your lives in some way or another. Lately, I have scrolled through my newsfeed and instead just felt sad and angry. Whether I have known you 25 years or 25 minutes, I love each of you for being who you are. For knowing me and allowing me to be who I am. I’m glad to live in a country where we can voice our opinions and not have to fear imprisonment or worse for not agreeing with our leaders. But I am tired. Tired of the continuous sharing of others words that are unfounded, unnecessary and just plain wrong. I’m sad that all it takes is one graph, or one news article or one person’s rant in which we find one thing we agree with which we share because now I believe this statement, article or graph to be a fact.  It is not a fact.  It is someone’s thoughts which may or may not be based on an actual fact.  I’m tired of everyone suddenly becoming an expert on politics.  It seems everyone these days has graduated from the University of Google with their political science degree without ever stepping foot inside the Capitol for any other reason than for a guided tour.  I know only a handful of people on my friends list who actually hold Political Science degrees and it’s truly interesting that I never see them partaking in this perpetual bashing of others and sharing of unverified information.  It seems ridiculous to me that people don’t know the difference between healthcare (you know actually receiving a medical service in a hospital or clinic) and health insurance (an agency you pay, typically monthly, so that you can get said services at a contracted rate which is usually but not always a lower price than if you did not have insurance).  Please stop saying your right to healthcare is being taken away, it has never been compromised and in fact it has never been a right in the first place.  If you have been turned away from a hospital simply because you are sick then your “right”  to healthcare has been violated.  Your right to affordable health insurance is not the same as your right to FREE healthcare, which isn’t even a discussion right now. Please stop sharing nonsense. When one person speaks their mind it is not your duty to prove them wrong or to judge them.  It is your duty to understand their point and to allow them to understand your point and hopefully from there you broaden both of your knowledge and agree to disagree gracefully.

I am proud of the women that were brave enough to stand up for what they believed in this weekend.  There are many things that I agreed with for that walk and many that I didn’t but that doesn’t make your act any less brave, encouraging and special. I hope that those of you who did walk for equality on Saturday don’t just let it end there. Please remember that chants and songs and signs are in the end just words. I hope that the injustices you may see around you awakens you enough to continue to learn, to research and to educate yourself so that you can develop real solutions to the problems we face and if that solution urges you to seek office to be the change, I hope you take that step. I know that we will never all see eye to eye, we weren’t created to.  There will always be winners and losers and life will move on until it doesn’t anymore.  I have been so weakened by this site over the last year so much that I realized I can no longer haunt my days and nights with it.  I have tried ignoring the posts and unfollowing certain feeds but it honestly hasn’t worked. I do not hate any of you and that is what breaks my heart and hurts the most, that I can love each of you and hate the words I read. For that reason alone I must walk away.  I cannot stand to fill my life with hate, fear and anger any longer.  I am 100% guilty of a snicker or eye roll at some of the memes and posts I found amusing. I have liked and shared things that I probably shouldn’t have but today I say no more. Today, I make it Facebook official and free myself from this negative space.

Many of you may have guessed that I’m not a very good Christian. I know that but I do believe in God and still very much strive to become a better person than I was the day before.  Yesterday, Adam and I visited a new church. We are still struggling to find what we will call our church home and we likely won’t agree any time soon but this weekend  I was looking for guidance and I really needed to be at a church, any church. We found a non denominational one right down the street and it was so intimate and inviting, it was really  refreshing.  The pastor spoke about being free in Jesus and overcoming our continuous struggles that lead us away from that freedom. The opening scripture caught me right away, it was exactly what I needed to hear that day and it is what I will leave you with tonight. Whether you believe in God or not, I hope you can find some truth in these words and find a way to find peace and freedom in yourselves.

“For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.  For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ But if you bite and devour one another, watch out that you are not consumed by one another.” Galatians 5: 13-15


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